People Pleasing Makes you Invisible
Overcoming the habit of people pleasing may seem like an easy fix, but often we do it because deep down, we have a fear. And fears are hard to overcome.
Perhaps it’s a fear of being judged, a fear of losing a job or client, or a fear of losing a relationship.
These fears stem from previous situations that have made us feel small. They replay in our subconscious mind as a negative situation that can be avoided by shutting up and just making the person happy. Our body tells us this is how we won’t get hurt again.
But by doing this, we slowly diminish into a less authentic version of ourselves. You may start to realize that people:
- don’t respect you like they could
- they don’t seem to care about you or your personal life as much
- life feels lonely because you aren’t with people who “get you”.
Stop Walking on Eggshells
I personally have lost friendships when I began to step into my authentic voice. I won’t lie to you; it hurt for a bit, but then I started realizing that those friendships were not as good as I thought.
The friendships that came after that loss have been much stronger, real, and I know I can be myself with them. I’m not walking on eggshells like I was with the other friends.
The same with former bosses. Once I started standing up for myself, I came to know who actually valued me and who felt I was easily replaceable. There’s a lot of freedom in that knowledge.
Besides, life is a lot more fun when you are being true to you, speaking your needs and wants to the world.
- You feel more stable
- You have more free time to do what you want
- You can trust that the people in your life are there because they WANT to be there
The benefits to healing your throat chakra
You’re not just overcoming the people pleasing by healing your throat chakra. You’re also taking back control and getting into the driver’s seat of your own life.
By healing the throat chakra, you’ll find that you:
- attract more true friends who enjoy your personality
- have courage to ask for that promotion
- can better express your needs in your relationship
- feel more confident being “seen” (rather than always sitting on the sidelines)
- find joy in presentations and teaching others your skillsets
Heal the throat chakra and you’ll feel more empowered to use your voice.
So what’s the deal with the Throat Chakra?
Remember before when I mentioned our body replaying those old memories?
The throat chakra is where you store emotions and memoriesassociated with people and situations that made you feel small in the past. Those layers of gunky energy and old stories are stopping you in your tracks. They are creating big blocks to overcoming the people pleasing behaviors you have been doing for so long.
When you begin to address – and work through – that stored up energy, you can move into a stronger version of yourself.
You can reclaim your voice, personality and boundaries.
Unleash Your Voice
If you’re ready to embrace a better life, you will benefit from the Unleash Your Voice recorded workshop.
This workshop will help you heal the past and overcome those patterns of people pleasing.
You’ll be led through an energy healing meditation to meet a Raccoon, an animal symbolizing authenticity and shedding the “mask”. Throughout the workshop, you’ll:
- Uncover areas of your life that you’ve been suppressing your personality, and the reasons why.
- Receive guidance on how to bring those parts forward and let go of situations in your past that have kept you from being yourself today.
- Reflect on your relationships, understand your people pleasing behaviors, and create actionable steps to overcome them.
- Learn techniques to clear out your throat chakra before a big presentation or speaking situation.
